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The encouragement and support I have institute with my home Al-anon grouping is astonishing and cannot be something to go from the book. It'south a great volume for guidance, merely it's one thing to read information technology and another to experience it alive with existent people. I take been blest to run into a wonderful sisterhood I have institute with my women's group and this volume is a skilful guideline, non but for those affected past alcohol (by or present), but actually anyone who accept found themselves to exist a co-dependent (which is commo The encouragement and support I accept institute with my home Al-anon group is amazing and cannot be something to get from the book. It'southward a nifty volume for guidance, but it'due south ane thing to read information technology and another to experience it live with existent people. I have been blessed to meet a wonderful sisterhood I have found with my women's group and this volume is a proficient guideline, not merely for those afflicted past alcohol (past or present), but really anyone who have constitute themselves to be a co-dependent (which is mutual in those from alcoholic families). I have hullo-lighted so much from this book and nodded in agreement so many times with the been there, washed that. Really helped me understand my own destructive behaviors and how to break free! ...more than

A solid guide through the steps, traditions and concepts of Al-Betimes. It's indispensable.

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A solid guide through the steps, traditions and concepts of Al-Anon. It's indispensable.

You are welcome to join our GoodReads 'Friends of Lois,' group where nosotros'll discuss AFG (Al-Betimes Family Groups) literature.

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I read this because my counselor made me. I hated reading information technology but it was a good volume for me to read. I don't call back I will exercise the program only I am happy to know information technology is there and currently looking into ACA. I read this because my counselor made me. I hated reading it just information technology was a good book for me to read. I don't think I will exercise the plan but I am happy to know it is in that location and currently looking into ACA. ...more

This book helps you to realize that you're not alone and that others may share the same experiences as you have had. Highly recommended for people who are in Al-Anon or thinking most joining a group. Even if that isn't the case, it gives you insight about alcoholism. This volume helps you to realize that you're not lone and that others may share the same experiences as you have had. Highly recommended for people who are in Al-Betimes or thinking about joining a group. Even if that isn't the case, it gives yous insight nigh alcoholism. ...more than

Alot! I thing that actually struck me is that many people that are being controlled by others and allowing it think they will finally exist free when that person dies but the furnishings of living with a dysfunctional person last even after they die or move to differnet cities or change spouces. The merely way to break the concur the behaviour has had is to arrive recovery and understand the pattern and pause the cycle of how you react.

This book saved my life. I plan to read it many times over. =) Even if you lot did not abound upwards in an alcoholic home, this book might provide some insights...

I bought this book as a sort of update. I am the former spouse of a person with deepseated anger issues. I had participated in Alanon back in the 1990's but had fallen away from it, and since my divorce from that person with recovery issues, I learned that she had become heavily involved in Alanon to sort through things related to her ain Family Of Origin. So I bought this book because I wanted to fully empathize the attraction of The Plan.... she is now going mulitple times per week....When I bought this book as a sort of update. I am the former spouse of a person with deepseated anger problems. I had participated in Alanon dorsum in the 1990's but had fallen abroad from it, and since my divorce from that person with recovery bug, I learned that she had become heavily involved in Alanon to sort through things related to her own Family Of Origin. So I bought this book because I wanted to fully empathise the attraction of The Plan.... she is now going mulitple times per week....When we were together I had experienced her problems, and born the brunt of anger which shredded my cocky esteem, merely non been able to assist her. She was in deprival up until a period after the divorce when she finally striking her own Rock Bottom. I needed to "let go and permit God" help her, a difficult decision for sure.

Now, the book is inseparable from the Alanon Program; and this is something you dear or hate - or maybe I should say, which you either buy into totally, or fail to understand. I agree with the other reviewers who said you lot demand more than simply this, in social club to begin "recovery".

The heart and soul of Alanon for those persons who desperately need it, is non the book; not the slogans; but the other persons who are farther along in the process and who go your "sponsor" - these people become your new back up organisation and help you acquire to re-parent yourself. In this way, to truly piece of work the Plan is akin to joining a cult, since you will go through a period of depending on these persons to help yous relearn the world. My former spouse said something they all say " I don't know what my old friends think of my new Alanon friends, only they are my family at present"... you lot get the picture. It was specially hit when I was on the telephone with her, several years after the divorce, prompted past issues with one of our daughters. She seemed unable to complete a phone chat unless she interrupted it and called back. I realized that in the interim she was phoning a sponsor, discussing my call, and so calling me back parroting what The Program said in this situation. This is a level of dependence on the Alanon lifeline which is dazzling. The part of the sponsor is only alluded to in a tangential way in the volume.

I experience sorry to realize that at that place are then any wounded souls out there who demand this, merely the truth is, Alanon has saved many people'southward lives and helped them during their crises. If you are a person with co-dependent issues the Program is for you. Information technology has helped many people with personality disorders in addition to the families of alcoholics.

Anger has a identify in recovery, simply this is my main area where I have difficulties with The Program. One bone to choice with Alanon is on the area of "detaching with beloved" - a strategy or technique used to cope with any person causing difficulty. In my instance, I was the spouse of an Alanon person whose problems mainly dealt with her Family unit Of Origin, but detaching with dear was used to cut *me* off since I was non too using The Program. It was not until years subsequently that the person realized the craziness and injustice of this. If you are the non-offending family member, exist alert for this, because it can be misused against you every bit a means to pull the person into the cultish aspects of Alanon.

Alanon teaches the new disciples how to exercise this, but I do not think it is off-white to the recipient of the strategy because information technology is never explained. Truthful Love tin can be similar to enmeshment - it is a mystery of life......

As well, Alanon adherents will often go through a menses of learning how to express their anger as they re-plant their personal identity, and if the person has deep-seated anger issues which are rooted in their basic personality, the lingo of Alanon can be used to rationalize the way that a person delivers verbal abuse nether the guise of "being honest....."

Now, when "owning you ain anger " gets confused with "only owning your side of ther street", it is a subtle mode to disregard emotional violence toward those persons around the new Alanon convert. Would you unleash your anger at a ii-year-one-time? No, because the kid doesn't have the tools...Most adult persons defenseless up with a person who has a personality disorder likewise do not have the tools to deal with this kind of verbal abuse, and a new convert can use the wrong parts of The Program to justify evil behavior. It goes without saying that there is never any excuse for the kind of unkindness sometimes unleashed past Alanon adherents toward those around them who are not-disciples. That was my experience.

And then,in balance, every bit I wrote, the volume is non separable from The Program. take it or get out it!

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Another excellent piece of Al-Anon literature. I haven't read the whole book cover to embrace simply I actually enjoy looking upwardly topics in the index and reading the experience, strength and promise on applying the Al-Anon ideas to my recovery. Highly recommended! Some other splendid slice of Al-Anon literature. I haven't read the whole book cover to encompass but I really enjoy looking upwards topics in the index and reading the experience, strength and promise on applying the Al-Betimes ideas to my recovery. Highly recommended! ...more

Institute a lot to connect to in each section/chapter/story. I read it from cover to encompass. Great for those in or thinking about joining Al-Anon and want to know just what the program aims to do and how people have benefitted from information technology.

Mar fifteen, 2021 Lindsay Woods rated information technology it was amazing

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This book is meant foe anyone suffering from the sickness of alcoholism or is effected in any fashion by the alcoholics life. All of those people should read this book over and over.

This book is a wonderful support for people who have had a friend or family unit member with alcoholism. And honestly - who doesn't? This volume is a wonderful support for people who have had a friend or family member with alcoholism. And honestly - who doesn't? ...more

Interesting; I never had any idea that alcoholism could still affect families for generations after the terminal drinking alcoholic has died. I was very confused nigh this for awhile, but Codependent No More than seems to have cleared it upward.

I thing I notice puzzling: why does there accept to be powerlessness and a college power to save united states of america?

Anyhow, I feel like the codependency book really covered this topic plenty for me, and I've finished most of the interesting parts of this. No way I'm reading several hun

Interesting; I never had whatsoever idea that alcoholism could even so affect families for generations subsequently the last drinking alcoholic has died. I was very dislocated nearly this for awhile, but Codependent No More than seems to accept cleared it upward.

I affair I notice puzzling: why does at that place have to be powerlessness and a higher power to salvage united states?

Anyway, I feel like the codependency book actually covered this topic enough for me, and I've finished most of the interesting parts of this. No style I'm reading several hundred pages of people's horror stories with messed-up alcoholic situations. Thanks, though.

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p. 29 "Those of us who oasis't been associated with an alcoholic in many years can go on to react to alcoholic patterns of behavior too. The depression self-esteem that evolved as a effect of past failures and episodes of abuse or fail persists. For the love and attending nosotros never received in the past, we look to people who are unavailable to us. We avoid conflict, only now practice so with employers, other relatives, or authority figures rather than with the alcoholic... Many of united states become so accepted to living in chaos and crunch that we experience completely lost in its absence. Consequently, when everything is going well, we sabotage ourselves, creating a crunch."

This rings true, especially the part about looking to people who are unavailable.

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This is my Big Book for Al-Anon and If used in conjunction with the Traditions and Concepts in my Daily Life, I do get Peace and Serenity forth with my Daily Devotional books..... And of course my meeting's and Sponsor..... This is my Big Book for Al-Betimes and If used in conjunction with the Traditions and Concepts in my Daily Life, I exercise get Peace and Tranquillity along with my Daily Devotional books..... And of course my coming together'southward and Sponsor..... ...more

Sometimes funny, and sometimes terrifically sad, this was a nice primer on the al-anon program. Some of the stories were kind of boring. I'm certain I could read this in x years and enjoy unlike stories than I practice today. Sometimes funny, and sometimes terrifically sad, this was a nice primer on the al-anon plan. Some of the stories were kind of wearisome. I'k sure I could read this in 10 years and savour dissimilar stories than I do today. ...more

Then grateful for a volume that teaches about recovery for friends & family of alcoholics. It's a book of hope, guidance & a light at the end of what was a very long dark tunnel that seemed to never stop. So grateful for a book that teaches nigh recovery for friends & family unit of alcoholics. It'due south a book of hope, guidance & a light at the end of what was a very long nighttime tunnel that seemed to never end. ...more than

It's e'er a practiced thing to review material like this to remain emotionally healthy. Information technology'due south always a good affair to review material similar this to remain emotionally healthy. ...more

Great book and so helpful like all Al-Anon books. I was blown away by Chapter xi - Detachment, Love & Forgiveness. That is truly a powerful piece of literature!

Very informative and helpful to agreement alcoholism and addiction. Likewise many pamphlets that are beneficial.

Information technology is mettlesome for anyone to write about a major disease and its effects on the family unit from their vantage betoken. Recovery is important even if the drinker keeps drinking or is no longer effectually.

Stories for and nearly persons who take alcoholic friends or family unit members. Skillful to hear 'how it works'. Stories for and about persons who have alcoholic friends or family unit members. Good to hear 'how it works'. ...more

Life changing and every time I open up information technology I learn something new most myself. I dearest Al-Betimes.

super helpful overview of the programme, with a lot of people'due south stories in the last section. i prefer the front sections, that focus on the tools of steps, traditions, concepts, and slogans. super helpful overview of the programme, with a lot of people's stories in the final department. i prefer the front end sections, that focus on the tools of steps, traditions, concepts, and slogans. ...more

I admit it, psychology interests me. Al-Betimes is essentially lay grouping therapy. It is a condom (depression-cost) place to share, as the book phrases information technology, 'Experience, Strength, and hope with other people who are, shall nosotros say 'codependent' or whose goals are to improve and build on mutual goals when working, living, understanding, existence with others; a style to move beyond selfishness to compassion. This book is the handbook to Al-Betimes. Al-Anon does not supercede professional psychotherapy, information technology isn't for everyon I admit information technology, psychology interests me. Al-Anon is essentially lay grouping therapy. It is a prophylactic (depression-cost) place to share, as the book phrases information technology, 'Experience, Strength, and hope with other people who are, shall we say 'codependent' or whose goals are to improve and build on mutual goals when working, living, understanding, existence with others; a fashion to move beyond selfishness to compassion. This book is the handbook to Al-Anon. Al-Anon does not replace professional psychotherapy, information technology isn't for anybody but information technology has stood the test of time and is available worldwide. ...more

Jan 08, 2022 Maria Balsamo rated it it was amazing

Excellent guide to aid people struggling with how to bargain with alcoholism is their family. It non simply includes a step past step arroyo, only as well includes stories of people who have employ this programme to successfully heal their emotional wounds and learn peace. In fact, book could help anyone that come from a dysfunctional family or for anyone dealing with trauma beyond their command which caused them to become dysfunctional.

I love this book a slap-up deal. From the opening pages that let you know you are not alone if you are familiar with the insanity of alcoholism, to the stories told that weave familiar narratives from loved ones of alcoholics, this is a gift that keeps on giving. I take turned to it time and time again, especially to contemplate the steps, the traditions, and the slogans with more earnestness.

My home grouping decided to gift this to any newcomer who makes it 3 meetings - a souvenir indeed!

November 12, 2020 Carmen rated it information technology was amazing

This one. I've read it several times and each time I forget the kickoff lesson I learned the terminal time. This nondescript cover with the banal title is hiding deep truths with lots of opportunities for personal growth. The estimation for that is I will weep hard causing my nose to run in a most embarrassing fashion. This one. I've read it several times and each time I forget the kickoff lesson I learned the last fourth dimension. This nondescript encompass with the banal title is hiding deep truths with lots of opportunities for personal growth. The interpretation for that is I will cry hard causing my nose to run in a most embarrassing way. ...more than

Mar 15, 2018 Debbie rated it information technology was amazing

Splendid book for anyone that has family or friend that has a problem with booze. Between reading this book, working the volume with meetings, fellowship and getting a Sponsor, it is life changing.

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Recommend for all people who have relatives oe friends or were raised in a family with the illness of al obols or addiction. also, attend at least half-dozen Al Anon meetings. This volume tin save and/ or requite you insight and start taking care of yourself.

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This book explains more clearly than any other the function of Al-Anon and provides insight into the help that is bachelor and what the life feel of many members has been. As a long term member, I found it deepened my appreciation and respect.

Mar 27, 2020 Shelley rated it really liked it

This book is super helpful to those learning how to recover from the effects of some other's alcoholism. The first one-half is practically how the Al-Anon programme works and the 2nd are stories written by people who are in the program.

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